Almost everyone is an actor.
Ask a friend how they are, most likely the answer will be, “I’m okay”. That’s the socially accepted answer that everyone expects. Not everyone will answer with the truth.
Everyone alters who they are, either slightly or extremely, whenever they’re with different people. With friends, family, coworkers, and on and on. Rarely will people just be themselves, except maybe in private moments. Or in some cases when alcohol is involved.
Sometimes people hide who they really are because they’re afraid who they are isn’t good enough for other people. Will my friends still be my friends if I show them the real me?
Take a moment to think about it. You have either done it, or seen it happen. You’re with a friend, you see other friends, and your body language changes, your vocabulary adjusts to the friends, and in the span of half a second, you’re someone else. Still you, but a version of you that you have created to mix easier with certain people. You aren’t pretending, it’s a personality you yourself have developed from interacting with other people.
These personas were probably developed due to a negative experience and you adjusted to fit in. Sometimes these adjustments are good or bad. Sometimes you may hide away a good trait due to a bad experience. But the opposite could also be true, that you hide away a bad trait that you don’t want nor need.
More often than not, the “real me” is surrounded by walls with holes in them to only let certain things out. These walls are for personal protection. These walls were erected by pain. By hurt. By embarrassment. By unhappiness. Sometimes people will come along who can break through these walls and meet the real you. In them you will have a real friend who you can finally, after years and years of hiding, be yourself with.
It’s scary to be yourself. Yes, it’s possible you will lose friends. But the friends you end up with, will know and love, you. Not the multiple facade created out of necessity. You.
Everyone is an actor. Stop acting.
Our Deepest Fear by Marianne Williamson
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant,
gorgeous, handsome, talented and fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.
Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking
so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God within us.
It is not just in some; it is in everyone.
And, as we let our own light shine, we consciously give
other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our fear,
our presence automatically liberates others.