Not Until You’re Older

“You’re too young”.

If you, were like me, then you heard this a lot from your parents.

All throughout my childhood, I always wanted to do things I saw adults doing.

I grew up with such eagerness to be an adult, rushing through so many things I didn’t know were so precious. Especially when the thing you wanted to do,  required a certain age to be allowed to do so.

When I’m older, I can stay out as late as I want.
When I’m older, I can drink or smoke.
When I’m older, I won’t have to wake up early.
When I’m older, I can have a girlfriend.

There was always something to aspire to when you’re a kid, but it was only attainable, when you were older. This is where it all begins. When you want to do something you’re too young to do. This is when you start to let go of your childhood innocence for the desire for real life. And so begins your journey through fantasy into reality. It’s as if you lived in a myriad of protective bubbles, and you began popping them one by one, each one revealing more about real life, and shattering any illusions of perfection or utopia you may have had.

Sometimes this choice is taken away from children. Sometimes life deals you a card, where it cuts your childhood prematurely and without your permission, either through natural means, or unnatural means, leaving you with two choices, grow up, or be a child forever.

We each have a child in us. Some of us listen to it. Some of us ignore it. Some of us try to forget it. And some of us listen to it too much.

If children are a ship, then parents are the lighthouse. When the children are lost at sea, the teachings of the parents will be the light that guides them home.

I pray that if or when I become a parent, my light will shine for my children as bright as the sun in the peak of summer, far long after I have left them.

Seasoned Pork Chops with Gravy


This is a really simple recipe you can make in 30 minutes, you can make this for yourself, for friends, or for a date with a special someone. 🙂

So let’s get down to it!

You’ll need the following:

Garlic Powder
Ground Mustard
Dill Weed
Onion Powder
Pork Chops
1 stick of Butter cut into two

If you’re missing a few spices, that’s okay, this recipe will work even with the absence of a few spices.

First off, make sure your pork chops are defrosted,   you want your chops to be at or near room temperature before you cook it. Also put paper towels on top and below the chops so it absorbs the moisture which will allow your spice rub to stick to your chops.

While your chops are releasing their excess moisture, now it’s time to prepare the spice rub!  Combine 1 tbsp Salt, 1 tbsp Pepper, 2 tbsp Paprika, 2 tsp Garlic Powder, 1 tsp Ground Mustard, 1 tsp Rosemary, 1 tsp Dill Weed, and 1 tsp Onion Powder in a small bowl.

Mix well and pat dry the chops then rub 2-3 pinches of the spice rub on each side of the pork chops. Use one hand to sprinkle the spice rub, and the other to rub the chops. Then once all chops are seasoned and rubbed, set aside remaining spice rub for future use.

In a heavy skillet over medium heat toss the butter in, once it’s all melted, start cooking the chops, about 5-8 minutes each side.

When the chops are done, remove them from the pan then set aside. Put the pan back on the fire and set it to low, add the remaining butter and a cup of milk, add freshly ground pepper and constantly stir until it’s all combined. If it’s too thick, add water little by little until it reaches your desired consistency. Then taste it to see if it needs seasoning. This is done in about 2-5 minutes.

Once the gravy is done, pour some on the chops and serve along with rice or mashed potatoes.