Loneliness and depression are very real things. Sometimes they’re enough to overwhelm even the strongest of people. Feelings of being a failure, of life having no meaning, no direction, of no hope, all these feelings can come crashing down on you in an instant.
With the introduction of social media, many have tried to find solace in Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, basing their view of themselves on how many likes or comments they get. They carefully compose and edit their captions, statuses, and photos, to present to the world what in their eyes is, their “best foot forward”. They always choose happy moments, never truly letting people know how their life is really going. More often than not, it’s just a facade. Thinking that if their post get a lot of likes or loves, that means that that many people like or love them. Because who wants to post a photo of what you’re truly feeling inside?
So a very important question needs to be asked, and you need be completely honest with yourself.
Do likes on social media affect your self-esteem?
If your answer is no, then good for you!
But if your answer is yes, then you need to find other ways to see value in yourself. You need to find out who the people are in your life that do not care about how many likes or comments you get on social media. You need to see that there are people who love and value you for who you are today, not your Throwback Thursday photo.
It’s perfectly normal to feel the need for validation. Most of us have a hole in our hearts that need to be filled. Sometimes it’s caused by neglect from a mother, a father, or sometimes both. It could be caused by a feeling of abandonment from childhood trauma. Maybe you’re hoping to hear certain words from certain people. Sometimes those words may never come, maybe someday they might. But you can’t base your life today on a someday.
That’s why it’s important to understand that people have different ways of expressing their love. I don’t know if you’re familiar with the five love languages, and they are the following, acts of service, words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, and physical touch. Each person speaks a different love language. Once you’re able to identify peoples’ love language, you’ll be more capable of figuring out how people feel about you.
I may know who you are, I may not, either way, I want you to know, that I know, without a shadow of a doubt, that you are worth more than you think you are, you just need to believe it. The ones who usually care about you the most, won’t always be the ones who comment on your feed.
In this day and age, with how busy everyone can be, it’s easy to feel like no one cares about you.
But never lose hope. The greatest stories are never without conflict. They’re never free of adversity. It’s okay to lose. More can be learned from a defeat than a victory. Keep your chin up, set your eyes on your goal, and press forward.
Because from the strongest storms, come the brightest rainbows.