I Need My Friends

I used to think that I shouldn’t share my problems with my closest friends. I didn’t want to burden them by adding my headaches to theirs.

And I realized I was wrong.

Keeping it all in isn’t good for anyone. That’s why friends are such a blessing. You share your dilemmas with each other, and help each other carry one another’s load.

Sometimes you’re in a place so dark you can’t find the way out.

Friends are the light at the end of the tunnel. They can help guide you back to where you’re supposed to be.

Friends are the lighthouse when you’re lost at sea.

Friends can also be surrogate angels to comfort and console you in your time of need.

Friends are that really funny joke that makes you break out into childlike laughter.

Friends are the ears who listen to you. The shoulders you can cry on.

Friends find the truffle in you.

So to all my friends, thank you for everything, I love you all!

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White Collar

Starring Matt Bomer and Tim DeKay.

I love this show! Mostly because of the characters and how their relationships develop as the series goes on. And also the struggle between doing the right thing and doing the wrong thing. The friendships that develop and the complexity of the situations created because of them, I find extremely interesting and engaging.

I constantly find myself torn between who I’m rooting for, should it be black and white or can they survive in the gray area.

I loved the show from the first episode, check it out and see if you share my opinion!

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Cru Steakhouse

Cru Steakhouse in the Marriott Resort’s World.

Absolutely excellent service. Super friendly, probably the best service I have ever experienced in my entire life in a restaurant. And so sweet the staff gave me a cake when I had my birthday dinner there, and they all signed a card wishing me a happy birthday.

And the food is perfect. The best steak I’ve ever had. I’m drooling just thinking about it. Prices are very reasonable considering the quality of food and service. If I could afford it I would eat there at least once a week.

I highly recommend dining there. It’s a nice place to go for an anniversary. Dress code is semi formal, but they seem to let guests of the hotel wear whatever they want.

I rate it a 10 out of 10.

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Traffic

I spent five hours yesterday stuck in traffic. Having been blessed by being able to go to other countries, the driving experience here as compared to hong kong or America, it’s quite frustrating.

When I’m stuck in traffic, I feel helpless. Almost any other route is also congested and you really have nowhere else to go.

I’ve tried to think of solutions for it, and I’ve come up with these.

Deprivatize buses. Make every bus driver earn a set amount of money per month rather than make them earn via quota. This way they won’t be overtaking one another to get more passengers. To be honest, let them tryout for racing teams. They drive like they think they’re in a formula one race car.

Cargo trucks should only be allowed in ONE lane. Not whatever lane they want. And they should properly secure their cargo. Many a time has my windshield been hit by a stray rock from a truck barreling down the road like a bat out of hell.

Build better roads and be smarter when building them. Think ahead. We all know it rains a lot in Manila. After a storm it’s quite likely that new potholes have shown up because someone scrimped on construction. If it’s a main road, add more lanes. It will be worth it in the future.

And most importantly, DECONGEST MANILA. People from the province think that Manila is the promised land. Come to Manila, your life will be better here. We have many other towns and cities that can be developed rather than just focusing on one! And by developing other towns, jobs will be created. The standard of living will increase in that area. Lives will be better.

I beg of the government, please, Stop treating your position like you’re on Who Wants To Be A Millionaire. Pleae think of future generations. Think of the life you want to give them. You are in power to effect change. To make a difference. Not to line your pockets and do things for yourselves. You are PUBLIC servants. You’re in a position of power FOR us, not against us. Please try and remember that person you started out as, the one that wanted to change the world, the one who wanted to improve life for everyone, the dreamer. Search your hearts for that person, and please, be that person once more.

Be the person that the people desperately need.

The Climb

Music and songs influence me greatly. Some songs are written so well and have so much meaning in the lyrics that they have the power to touch me in the deepest regions of my heart.

And sometimes some artists I never thought I’d ever ever listen to, have a song that can unexpectedly strike a chord in me and grab my attention.

Take for instance “The Climb” by Miley Cyrus. It speaks of the struggles of going through life. About the mountains and the valleys of every single persons journey through their existence. I can relate to almost every line in the song. And I think so can everyone else.

We all go through life. We all question where we are going. We’ve questioned every decision we’ve made. What we are doing. We have all doubted ourselves. We have all felt “lost with no direction” and that our “our faith is shaken”, at one point or another. But through it all, when times get rough. When all seems bleak. When all hope is lost, “I gotta keep trying. I gotta keep strong. Just keep moving on.”

I have failed. I know I will fail again. I will lose. But I won’t lose all the time. Sometimes I’ll win. Losing teaches me something. It’s a lesson not a punishment. It shows me where I am weak. I can choose to fix it. I can make it better. Sometimes I won’t want to fix it. Sometimes I’ll want to give up.

But I can fix my eyes on the heavens. I know He gave me a destiny. I know where I’ll end up.

But how can I truly appreciate the end of the journey, if I didn’t go through the climb?

The Climb” by Miley Cyrus

I can almost see it
That dream I’m dreaming but
There’s a voice inside my head saying
You’ll never reach it

Every step I’m taking
Every move I make feels
Lost with no direction
My faith is shaking

But I
I gotta keep trying
Gotta keep my head held high

There’s always gonna be another mountain
I’m always gonna wanna make it move
Always gonna be a uphill battle
Sometimes I’m gonna have to lose

Ain’t about how fast I get there
Ain’t about what’s waiting on the other side
It’s the climb

The struggles I’m facing
The chances I’m taking
Sometimes might knock me down
But no, I’m not breaking

I may not know it
But these are the moments that
I’m gonna remember most
Just gotta keep going

And I, I got to be strong
Just keep pushing on

‘Cause there’s always gonna be another mountain
I’m always gonna wanna make it move
Always gonna be a uphill battle
Sometimes I’m gonna have to lose

Ain’t about how fast I get there
Ain’t about what’s waiting on the other side
It’s the climb

There’s always gonna be another mountain
I’m always gonna wanna make it move
Always gonna be an uphill battle
Somebody’s gonna have to lose

Ain’t about how fast I get there
Ain’t about what’s waiting on the other side
It’s the climb

Keep on moving, keep climbing
Keep the faith, baby
It’s all about, it’s all about the climb
Keep the faith, keep your faith

Acting

Almost everyone is an actor.

Ask a friend how they are, most likely the answer will be, “I’m okay”. That’s the socially accepted answer that everyone expects. Not everyone will answer with the truth.

Everyone alters who they are, either slightly or extremely, whenever they’re with different people. With friends, family, coworkers, and on and on. Rarely will people just be themselves, except maybe in private moments. Or in some cases when alcohol is involved.

Sometimes people hide who they really are because they’re afraid who they are isn’t good enough for other people. Will my friends still be my friends if I show them the real me?

Take a moment to think about it. You have either done it, or seen it happen. You’re with a friend, you see other friends, and your body language changes, your vocabulary adjusts to the friends, and in the span of half a second, you’re someone else. Still you, but a version of you that you have created to mix easier with certain people. You aren’t pretending, it’s a personality you yourself have developed from interacting with other people.

These personas were probably developed due to a negative experience and you adjusted to fit in. Sometimes these adjustments are good or bad. Sometimes you may hide away a good trait due to a bad experience. But the opposite could also be true, that you hide away a bad trait that you don’t want nor need.

More often than not, the “real me” is surrounded by walls with holes in them to only let certain things out. These walls are for personal protection. These walls were erected by pain. By hurt. By embarrassment. By unhappiness. Sometimes people will come along who can break through these walls and meet the real you. In them you will have a real friend who you can finally, after years and years of hiding, be yourself with.

It’s scary to be yourself. Yes, it’s possible you will lose friends. But the friends you end up with, will know and love, you. Not the multiple facade created out of necessity. You.

Everyone is an actor. Stop acting.


Our Deepest Fear by Marianne Williamson

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant,
gorgeous, handsome, talented and fabulous?

Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.

Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking
so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do.

We were born to make manifest the glory of God within us.
It is not just in some; it is in everyone.

And, as we let our own light shine, we consciously give
other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our fear,
our presence automatically liberates others.